I can’t get very far into the topic of commitment without bringing up my marriage. My husband and I will soon be celebrating 24 years together. Actually, 27 years if the dating years are added in. That’s a commitment, wouldn’t you say? The cool thing is that we still like each other. More than that, we love each other. We’re committed.
The following post was written about our commitment back in February in honor of Valentine’s Day. I’m reposting because I feel the same and I’m not sure I could say it any better if I tried a second time. Love you, Todd!
Love is a Commitment
My husband and I are high school sweethearts and, with him a year older than I am, we “suffered” through the long-distance-relationship that was his freshman year. This was a time, my young readers, when a long-distance call was expensive and mail was actual mail. This required a commitment!
I diligently wrote to him every day and he wrote to me too… with less frequency (see above mentioned freshman year). I understood; however, I remember a time when I must have been pretty frustrated with the lack of correspondence from Grand Forks. On this day I sent a postcard that read, “Love is a commitment not a feeling. Where’s my mail?” And then I quit writing until I received the hoped for letter. The silent treatment has always worked for me with him!
Of course, I said it to make a point and more importantly to get him to sit down and think about us for a moment when his life was so full of things far away from me. At our young age, I think we were particularly blessed to know that love is indeed a commitment and that we needed to work beyond the feeling (wonderful as it is) to make a life together. I guess we sort of understood, as Gary Chapman shares in his book The 5 Languages of Love, that the average in-love experience lasts two years. After that, it needs to be something more.
But commitment seems a little like work, doesn’t it? Sort of boring, maybe? Certainly not romantic! At first blush, perhaps. Then I started thinking…
This commitment makes me feel content.
This commitment makes me feel happy.
It makes me feel joyful, secure, adored, and delighted.
Above all, this commitment that I share with my husband makes me feel loved. And a commitment like that is more romantic than any feeling I’ve had the pleasure of knowing.
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